Building connection after trauma

by | May 26, 2020 | Book Recommendations

Attachment is fundamental to being human and being able to engage fully in relationships. It is defined as “a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space” (Ainsworth, 1973; Bowlby, 1969). Childhood trauma often affects an individual’s attachment style. Attachment theory has been used for many years to help build connection in families who have found each other through foster care and adoption.

Lisa Haberbusch, MSW, LISW-S, Encompass Regional Director helps children and their families become more secure in the area of attachment. She recommends “Building the Bonds of Attachment – Awaking Love in Deeply Troubled Children” by Daniel A. Hughes, PhD to learn more about caring for the needs of children with attachment challenges. This book, which Lisa called, “a riveting account of how trauma breaks down attachment and how it can be rebuilt,” offers specific parenting and treatment interventions. Lisa said she couldn’t put it down, and you may not be able to either.

The author is a clinical psychologist who has spent more than 40 years helping youth reach their potential and reconnect with others in their lives. His book describes in great detail the fictional figures of a hurting child, a clinician who diagnoses and treats the child’s problems due to trauma and disorganized attachment patterns, and the therapeutic foster parent who creates safety and a new awareness of self for the hurting child following years of abuse and unsuccessful earlier foster placements.

Education, interventions and therapy can help bring healing to this important area of our lives. Attachment styles are adaptable at any age and it’s possible to discover healthy ways to connect and thrive within family and other relationships.

Recent Blog Posts

Stretching the way we think

Stretching the way we think

Over time thought habits have been learned or created by children and adults. We may not even realize how frequently we engage in negative thinking patterns. Katherine Failor, MSW, LISW-S, outpatient and home-based mental health therapist at Encompass said,...

Summer and school resources

Summer and school resources

We hope you all are finding pockets of joy this summer. Pausing from media/technology and going outdoors to a green space even for a short time can help calm you and open up your posture for joy. Self care is strongly encouraged as we face this year together. Our...

Racial competency resources

Racial competency resources

As we seek to foster empathy for others, it is helpful to understand their background and experiences. Here is a list of resources compiled by Encompass Therapist Jordan Kamwesa, LPC. We invite you to keep listening and learning with a humble, teachable heart as you...

Teaching kids their worth

Teaching kids their worth

Children cultivate their value through the implicit and explicit messages they receive. We send messages of their worth through our behavior when we listen and respond to their needs. Children experience their worth within safe and caring relationships. We can affirm...

Fostering empathy for those whose race is different than our own

Fostering empathy for those whose race is different than our own

Today’s blog post comes from Encompass Therapist Jordan Kamwesa, LPC. She invites us to consider ways that we can build cultural awareness and understanding for ourselves and our families. She encourages us to be intentional and compassionate as we learn and grow...